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{April 25, 2009}   Neurology Now letter

Neurology Now is a great free magazine with intresting content. I was dismayed though by their choices of Autism resources so I wrote them this letter:
“I am an autistic adult and enjoy reading your magazine. However, I was disappointed to see only Autism Speaks and Autism Society of America listed in Resource Central. Despite the name, Autism Speaks is not run for or by autistic people, and the Autism Society of America primarly helps parents and families. It would be fair to include a resource like the Global and Regional Asperger Syndome Partnership (GRASP) that is run by and for autistics ( The site includes hotly debated issues surrounding autism and its treatment. For example, Autism Speaks and the Autism Society of America both would like a cure for Autism and GRASP would not.”

Well, guess what?! They published my letter and added GRASP to the listing.

So if you are bugged by something in a magazine or newspaper, write them! You may be pleasantly surprised that they care and may change!


I wonder sometimes how my family would be different if I wasn’t Autistic. Would life be easier for them? Would my parents stress less? I think indeed life would be different, but not better. In my own wacky way I help sculpt my family into the people are, as they change me by who they are.

I have a lot of respect for families dealing with a special needs member. Especially parents! They want so badly to help their children, yet find them many times to be challenging and confusing. Well…

I have a surprise giveaway!

Carolyn’s Kitchenhas been kind enough to sponsor a giveaway of this apron:
sweetheat apron

Carolyn’s Kitchen has been featured in OK! and Paula Deen’s Holiday Baking issue of 2007 as well as with the Girls Next Door at Madame Chocolat Los Angeles. They are 40\’s vintage inspired and make anybody feel wonderful (and sexy!) to wear one! Put one on and tah-dah you are transformed!

To enter, you have three options (you can do all three, but leave each in a seperate comment!) :

1. Go to Carolyn’s Kitchen and tell me your favorite apron

2. Tell me a simple tip on how to relieve stress!

3. Give a fact about Autism

Please remember to leave your e-mail address like love[at] so I can e-mail you if you win!

This contest ends May 15th at noon!

{April 17, 2009}   Not all Autistics are Rainman!

The 1988 movie “Rain Man” is fascinating and good movie fare. There are a very select few with Rain Man’s skills. He has a condition called savant syndrome that results in an extreme talent at one specific area yet generally an otherwise low IQ. These skills can include card counting (like Rain Man), calender memory, an obsessive knowledge about one specific thing (such as baseball statistics or U.S. presidents) Half of savants are considered to be autistic.

However, it does get really annoying when people automatically assume autistic=rain man. I especially have no desire to let anybody know I’m autistic where I am right now; the Borgata at Atlantic City. Although I wouldn’t be allowed on the casino floor anyways since I’m not 21 until July. In any case I can assure you I have average skill at card games, I certainly cannot card count. I am lucky to remember today’s date, let alone one 50 years ago. Every autistic person is different, so please do not insult us by assuming we have the same skills as a movie character or somebody on the news. Just like non-autistics, we are each unique.

{April 12, 2009}   Hamster

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{April 5, 2009}   Emergency and Autism

Autistics can react in unusual ways to an emergency. They can become disoriented by the noise and confused by multiple people asking rushed questions. Others shut down to a minimal level to follow the rules needed to “solve” the problem. I strongly recommend having a “Autism” card for any child, teen, or adult who has Autism/Asperger’s. Also keep a paper with information on medications needed, allergies, etc. as the Autistic person may not be able to recall this information when needed.
Here is a sample card I made, feel free to use it:

Thought I’d share a few thoughts I’ve been told about Autism (not my own). Also, please feel free to comment with your own thoughts, all except spam will be approved.

“I am a mom of a child with autism. I wish more people were aware that he is a smart wonderful person. So often people assume he is not intelligent because he has autism! I also wish more people understood that at least for him,,even if he doesnt act interested in bieng friends he wants to be friends with people with all his heart!” -mom of child with Autism

“What I hate is people calling him autistic or saying they are autistic. This does not define him. He has autism, but autism is not who he is. Sry, I get kinda po’d”-mother of 12 year old with Asperger’s/High Functioning Autism

“It’s be cool if we had an autism-spectrum comedian on our side , one who told jokes that nobody got except other auties and aspies.
Or if they had an “Aspie Night” on Dancing With The Stars; being that nobody would be terribly physically coordinated, everybody would be graceful by comparsion.”-35 year old man with Asperger’s Syndrome

A lot of people assume Autistics do not care about others. In all the Autistics I’ve met, this isn’t true at all! However, it is difficult to figure out what other people are feeling. A classic example is I cannot for the life of me figure out crying. People cry when they’re sad, people cry when they’re happy. How the darn goodness do I tell which kind of crying it is? Heck, I can’t even tell you why I’m crying sometimes! So we may not know something is wrong. Once we figure out something is wrong, we often have no clue what to do to fix it. I know I would want to pet my hamster when upset, but other people probably don’t. Anyways…

Something that has helped is reading books that explain social skills and situations. Well, that is one thing that our giveaway sponsor, Free Spirit Publishing can help with!
Free Spirit Books

Their mission: Being the leading publisher of learning tools that support young people’s social & emotional health. We help children and teens to think for themselves, succeed in life, and make a difference in the world.

-They guarentee you will like their products or you get a full refund.
-They started in 1983
-They print on recycled paper containing a minimum of 30% post consumer waste as part of the Green Press initiative

They have books on everything from feelings to dealing with middle school to body issues. It’s just a wonderful site! And they like to help people so much, they have given me the book “Understand and Care” to giveaway. This book is fantastic, it is aimed at younger kids and explains clearly about other people’s emotions. The faces are well illustrated in what is being discussed. There is not a lot of text but a nice activity guide for parents in the back that includes questions and games.

To win, all you have to do is visit their site and name another book you like in the comment section on this post. Free Spirit For a second entry you can add my button to your site.

Please remember to leave your e-mail in the comment, such as “lovely[at]”
If you add my button to your blog, please leave a link to your blog in a second comment!

This Giveaway ends on April 30th at midnight. Good luck!

Congrats Jessica for winning the giveaway!

I will be contacting you via e-mail for shipping information.

Thank you everybody for entering the giveaway, I have another one coming up soon!

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